Forelsket eller at elske en person?

At first these two things might look the same but they ain't.

"Forelsket"(being in love) is where you want the person for yourself and you only see your own needs

But "at elske"(to love) someone is where you only want the best for that person even though it means that you have to let go.

I'm sure that we all want and wish for a thing in the between where its all happy happy joy joy but such thing will never come